Actually, you can get your final value back by going through ebay, you will have to wait 7 days after the auction ends before emailing Ebay, Ebay will email the buyer a warning. Then you will have to give the buyer another 10 days to pay for it. After 10 days if the payer still hadn't paid, you need to inform Ebay again They will credit your final value fee back, and issue the buyer a "non-paying bidder alert". However, you don't get your listing fee back. To find out more, go to ebay "help" and type in "final value fee". They will give you more information about this. :)